Who do you see?
Why use a personal stylist you ask?– There are many misconceptions about personal styling, some say its a form of cloning, some say the stylist projects their own style on to their clients, some say its to push brands. And perhaps there are stylists that are guilty of that, just like in any profession, there are doctors and then there are doctors, there are plumbers and then there are plumbers, there are chiropractor and then there are chiropractors, you get the point. What a stylist is meant to do is educate clients on their silhouette, their natural colour undertones and their proportions and determine what their clients unique style is then ensure they know exactly where & how to effortlessly select only cuts of garments that suit and compliment their silhouette and have them looking vibrant and feeling fabulous. There is an array of different services provided by stylist and all equally focussed on the clients attributes & needs. And although the saying goes ‘Don’t judge a book by it cover’ when it comes to business and Personal Branding unfortunately we don’t get a second chance at making a first impression. And style is a way of saying who you are without saying a word. Tell me honestly if someone you were paying money to for an expensive service and they looked disheveled in appearance most likely you would not take them as seriously as one who is looks sharp and well presented.
Possibly the most significant and fundamental purpose of personal styling it that it makes a person feel so darn good within. What many fail to realise is that it’s so much deeper than that. It’s difficult to describe how deeply rewarding it is to be part of a realisation undold before their very eyes. To see themselves in a fresh vibrant light and feel genuine joy in themselves. A self appreciation that just suddenly dawned on them. It’s a beautiful thing to witness. They are seeing themselves. We aren’t talking about their role – mother, father, daughter, son, wife or husband or even their title or the job they do, its a moment of connection they have with them. Self–connection is a state of being – one in which tunes to self to one’s own emotional, spiritual, and physical, and honors that place. Drop a pebble into that and watch the ripples expand, the possibilities are bountiful.
It seem no matter who we speak with, no matter where they live or what they do, people are living much faster lives and are confronted with an overload of daily decision making. Many people are not even aware there is such a thing as ‘Decision Fatigue’. Studies have shown that people have developed a reduced ability to make trade-offs – where either of two choices have positive and negative elements and it is too often their own well being that falls short of being noticed, catered to and cared for in order to feel reward and relief.
Dr David Ludden poses the question in his article in Psychology Today, what do you see when you look in a mirror? “Myself, of course,” you reply. But what is your self? Strictly speaking, when you look in a mirror, you see a face that you recognize as your own. But recognizing yourself is more than just identifying the face in the mirror as your own. The concept of self is related to a number of ideas that include mind and consciousness. So you can imagine the implications of being disconnected with oneself. The relationship with yourself is the most important relationship that you will ever have. Having a healthy relationship with yourself means that you have a stable self-concept. … Self-love is the best kind of love. It allows us to connect to our purpose and live the life that we are meant to live.
When we look in the mirror do we look at ourselves or are we looking for ourselves? John H. Walter – True Mirror Maker says ‘Reflecting truth is a sound idea, even if familiarization takes some time, on the other side is you, all of you and only you.’ So, as a personal stylist my purpose is to serve you in a way so that you really look at yourself in the mirror, and experience a complete revelation of you and maintain a wonderful and meaningful relationship with yourself. To feel completely connected with what you see.
Clarity equals opportunity, opportunity equals value minus perception.